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How we deal with Trauma 我們如何和好創傷

Updated: Sep 26, 2023

*請注意,以下文章包含親密關係創傷的內容

如果您感到舒適的話,邀請您可以繼續細嚼內文*



見證著一段關係由相愛、因為制約的條件而分開、發現原來違背了真正的心聲、嘗試挽回、不果、後悔、療傷、學習原諒自己、再療傷、放手、在生活中無意間又會跑出一些未完成的部分、又療傷、再放下、無力感、遇上新的人又發現某些影子、又再勾起某部分的情感、目睹對方已放下原來只有自己還存有一些期望、再放手、最後終於圓滿和好,回到中正無期望,真正變回兩個獨立個體。


這是一趟旅程,一趟永遠無法預料要多久才走「完」的旅程。每次的觸動都是讓我們很潛藏的部分有被揭開和放手的機會。


如果您也曾經歷過任何創傷,不論是親密關係、性、朋友間的背叛、生死、懷孕的不良經歷、因力量而衍生的失敗、對人類的不信任等等,只要對您來說是創傷的情況,請給予自己最多的時間,最大的溫柔,因為這不是一個可估算何時完成的「計劃」,請放下一切「幾時先會完」的想法。


我明白我們都很想「逃離」創傷的感覺,因為有時真的too much,但我們可以選擇承認自己未能接受,接受自己未能接受也是一種接納,我們也可以選擇暫停、放慢,而不好拒絕或逃離,或誤以為自己已完成而其實是對自己不誠實或來自我們的期望。在整個過程最重要是慢下來和不用催迫自己,對自己100%坦白,給予自己一生(或更長)的時間去和好,帶著這個態度,終有一天我們發現傷口已經不知不覺間痊癒,回到合一,回到愛,回到光中。

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*Please be informed that this content includes some traumatic experience in intimate relationships.

If you feel comfy with it, welcome to keep on reading.*



Witnessing a relationship from falling in love, separation due to conditioning, discovering that it actually violated our heart, trying to get back together, failure, regret, healing, learning to forgive ourselves, healing again, letting go, unfinished part unfolding in life unintentionally, healing, letting go, feeling helpless, similarity from new people we meet, hidden parts of emotion unfolding again, seeing the other person let go already and we are still the one who have expectations in that relationship, letting go, and finally reconciled successfully spiritually, returning to neutrality without expectation, to truly becoming two independent individuals without conditions.


This is a journey, a journey that can never be predicted how long it will take to "complete". Every trigger is an opportunity to unveil a hidden part of us. It is an opportunity to let go.


If you have also experienced any trauma, whether it is an intimate relationship, sex, betrayal between friends, grief from death, any unpleasant pregnancy, power struggle, distrust of human beings etc., as long as the situation is traumatic to you, please give the longest time and the most gentle tenderness for ourselves because this is not a "plan" that can be estimated when it will be completed. Let go all the thoughts of "when will it be over".


I understand that we all want to "escape" from the feeling of trauma because sometimes it is too much. However, we can choose to admit that we are not fine. Accepting we not accepting is already an acceptance. Or we can choose to pause and slow down but just don’t escape or mistakenly thinking that we have finished which may come from dishonest to ourselves or from the expectation we wish to be. The most important thing in this whole process is to slow down and not to push ourselves. Be 100% honest and give ourselves a lifetime (or more) to get along with it. I am sure with this attitude, we will find that the wound has been healed one day and we all are back to unity with love and light.

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