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5個壓力真相 Part 1/5 5 root causes of STRESS

#1 膊頭緊


以為係工作緊張或長期坐office造成?


維持同一個姿勢著實會令肌肉緊繃


但若然你已有適時抒解而緊繃依然持續


那是時候檢視一下更深層的意義


膊頭無意識地繃緊,大部分來自我地無意識地背負著其他人的責任


1️⃣幫助上司完成一切超越自己工作範圍既事務


2️⃣幫助家人完成家庭事務(尤其你認為對方不及你做得快或不懂做)


3️⃣就算孩子已經夠大但還幫子女穿衣著穿襪子餵食


因為自己有能力,所以無意識地抱負所有事情,久而久之,你的神經系統開始變得負荷不了,慢慢地作出自動化的緊繃去反應一切「工作」


所以壓力的源頭並不是你的工作而是你如何回應工作和責任的態度


💔曾經父母沒有給予你足夠的關愛


所以成為父母後,你都在投射這種渴望在子女身上


協助你的父母履行對子女的責任




❤️‍🔥曾經因為你的能力贏過上司的掌聲


你會想繼續透過這種能力證明自己的價值




❤️‍🩹曾經因為家人做家務受傷了


你很心痛亦害怕失去她


所以從此開始,你就一直替他做這項家務了




❤️‍🩹曾經在一段親密關係中,伴侶沒有履行過在關係的承諾和責任


但為了不想分開,你就一直背負著對方的責任維持關係




所以要解決膊頭緊真正壓力的源頭是:放下,放手別人的責任


讓當事人有學習負責任既機會


這才是真正能夠幫助當事人成長的做法


然後你才有足夠的心力履行自己的責任:


讓自己休息、創立自己的事業、去一趟你一直想去既旅行、


完成你的工作範圍和收拾你的房間⋯


這些才是你需要履行的責任— 照顧好你自己




我的1:1 KY Private Class 能夠精準地感知你目前神經系統中的壓力點


並能夠將其釋放,讓你可以更容易放下別人的責任,照顧好你自己




過幾天我會再分享下一個壓力真相 Stay tuned!

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#1 Tense shoulders


Due to your workload or sitting too long at office?


Staying the same posture leads to tense muscles but if this persists even if you regularly relieve it,


Maybe it’s time to dive in deeper what it means to you.


Automatically tensing your shoulders could be because you unconsciously bear OTHERS’ responsibilities.


1️⃣Fulfil your boss’s job assigned for you which is exceeding your job responsibility


2️⃣Help your family to complete housework (esp when you think they can’t do better than you or they don’t know how to do)


3️⃣Help your kids to do everything even if they are big enough to do them.


Because of our capability, we tend to unconsciously take others’ responsibilities. When time goes, your nervous system is too stressed out and eventually, it develops an automatic tension to react to “work”.


So the root of STRESS is not your job but how you respond to jobs and responsibility.


Your previous experience stored in your nervous system decides these attitudes.


❤️‍🩹You couldn’t get enough Care from your Parents.

So being a parent, you projected this to your kids and fulfilled the responsibility of your parents.



❤️‍🔥Your Job Performance got appreciated by your boss.

So, you work even harder to prove your are capable.



❤️‍🩹Your family members got injured from doing a housework.

You felt terrible and are scared you would lost him/her.

Since then, you are doing this for him/her.



💔Your Partner didn’t fulfil their commitment and responsibility in a relationship.

But you hate separation so you are doing this to keep the relationship going.



What relieves Stress from your shoulders is Letting go. Letting go others’ responsibilities so they are given opportunities to learn.


This is how we can “help” them grow.


And you have sufficient energy to take your own responsibility:


Take a good rest, Start your own business, Go for a journey you long for,


Fulfil your job or just simply tidy up your room.

Taking good care of yourself is your main responsibility.



My 1:1 Kundalini Yoga Private Class can accurately spot where your stress is in the body system and to release them so you can easily let go of others’ responsibilities and take good care of yourself completely.



I am gonna share another Truth of Stress in the coming days.



Stay tuned!

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